Women - Overcoming Your Alcohol Abuse, Dependence or Addiction

Alcohol rehabilitation treatment providers are nearlyoccurs in isolation. Getting over it can't be addressed
universally wedded to the outdated 12-Step model thatas either a single problem unrelated to the rest of
only works for approximately ten percent of the menone's life, or an activity that can be altered without
they were designed for, much less for women.other changes also occurring. Such life-altering steps
Women, and their usually differing needs, motivations,need and deserve good support.
and solutions, are merely lumped into thisGood support in this case is actually a little different
one-size-kinda/sorta-fits-all category with predictablythan what we, as women, tend to migrate towards.
poor results.Research in women's development finds that under
Many women find it impossible to access help thatstress we tend to regress towards group conformity
addresses their particular circumstances, life stages,rather than move forward towards individually based
degrees of alcohol involvement, and other relevantsolutions. What this means is that we are more
factors. This isn't surprising, because there are verycomfortable choosing a socially acceptable solution
few programs available that offer these services.rather than one that might really works for us.
Since women generally are more comfortable talkingHowever, alcohol abuse is highly individual, therefore
about problems rather than actively making thelong-term solutions need to be equally unique.
changes necessary to solve them, we tend to shyRemember, alcohol misuse, ranging from abuse to
away from newer models of treatment that ask moredependence to addiction, is not an equal opportunity,
of us. This is unfortunate. The older, 12-step model ofnor necessarily, progressive condition. Effectively
treatment, that is readily found in group meetings,intervening and relieving a specific woman's symptoms
undermines our strengths and plays into the "victim"means accurately assessing strengths, interests,
mentality that society imposes on women who drinkcircumstances, and preferences. Only then can an
too much, rather than addressing individual women andaction plan be devised that addresses all of the
their unique situations.components that have led to the current problems - a
Are their better options available? Of course there are,plan that is based on her wishes and needs, not
though they're harder to find. Real change involvesonebased on an imposed, and largely inapplicable,
more than conferring a label like "alcoholic" andmodel.
prescribing a series of rituals. Rooting out a problem, orProfessional help can make the process much more
eliminating its negative consequences, meanseffective and efficient. Look for programs that take
assessing a woman's strengths, interests, and needs. Itinto account individual goals and needs, not those of
also means changing her day-to-day life in ways thatthe program or counselor merely looking to acquire
are fulfilling and motivating. It's really about changinganother long-term client. Intensive short-term
oneself so that specific problems no longer have fertileassessment and planning followed by implementation
ground to grow in.and follow-up should lead to substantial permanent
Alcohol abuse or dependence isn't something thatchange in less than a year.