Why Can't You Just Control Your Drinking?

This just in: heavy alcohol use can interfere withingesting thousands of calories of alcohol.
relationships! 
"I don't want to stop drinking. I want to drinkHint #1: if you are not alcoholic, it is no problem to not
moderately, like two or three beers a night. If I do that Idrink alcohol. Non-alcoholics do not have to "control"
can get my wife/girlfriend/husband/boss off my back. Itheir drinking; they can take it or leave it. Real alcoholics
think if I just stick to beer, maybe wine when we goCANNOT consistently drink moderately. Period.
out to eat, I'll be okay. It's the hard stuff that's aHint #2: If you cannot stop drinking and stay stopped,
problem." "Or maybe I could drink beer during theyou deserve help. Find a therapist who actually knows
week, and the other stuff, just one or  two...maybesomething about alcoholism recovery, not one who will
three drinks, on weekends."try to "teach" you to "control" your drinking. Normal
This is the wish of every alcoholic: to drink like adrinkers do not have to control their drinking. If you are
"normal" person. If alcohol has caused a problem innot a normal drinker, or a non-drinker, you are a
your life, a legal, health, job or family problem, whyproblem drinker and you deserve recovery. Drop in at
would you want to drink more of it? Is that seductivea 12 step support group...it's free. You have nothing to
liquid, alcohol, so important that you are willing to risklose.
another DUI and probable jail time? Or is the price ofHint # 3: When/if you stop drinking, lots of feelings will
your drinking just a disappointed wife and another nightcome up. You will have to find a way to deal with
passed out in front of the television? I know, you're justthem.
tired after a tough day. You deserve a drink. Right!One three part definition of alcoholism goes like this:
You have not had "a drink" in a very long time.1. Compulsive Use
Choosing alcohol over your family makes some very2. Inability to Control the Amount Used
clear statements, ones that are devastating to spouse3. Continued Use in Spite of Adverse Consequences
and children. It says that the alcohol is more important 
than they are. Want to argue that? If you are alcoholic,More simply put, if alcohol is causing a problem  in
of course you do; alcoholics spend a lot of time andyour life, you probably have a problem with alcohol and
energy justifying and defending their drinking. If yourcould probably call yourself alcoholic.
spouse's request that you stop drinking or yourIf alcohol is not causing a problem, if you can take it or
children's hurt and disgusted looks are important to you,leave it (not substituting alcohol in pill form like Xanax
pay attention and put them ahead of your preciousand other benzodiazepines, smoking your alcohol in the
alcohol. If you don't like being awake (un-passed out)form of favorite herb marijuana, or snorting something,
during the evening, don't like being sober andshooting up, or using transdermal patches of 
emotionally present, give yourself a break and get help.Fentanyl), then you are probably not alcoholic.
The need for a drink, even just a beer, to provide youRemember, an alcoholic is just an alcohol addict and
with comfort in your own skin just might signify a littleaddicts are able to substitute one drug for another.
problem. You think? Consider "taking a few monthsWhat have you got to lose if you actually try living
off" from drinking...hmmm...just do it to losealcohol and drug free...just for a while?
weight...there's an idea. New cure for obesity: stop