| The best thing you can do when dealing with an | | | | attitude won't get you anywhere. You need to take |
| alcoholic spouse is to detach from the abuse of the | | | | care of yourself and that cannot be done if you are |
| alcoholic. You can do this if you truly love your spouse | | | | focusing all of your attention on the alcoholic and what |
| and want to help them to possible sobriety. The more | | | | he is doing or what he isn't doing. Start focusing on |
| you focus all your energies on the alcoholic, the less | | | | what you can do for yourself. Get out of the house, |
| likely he is to get sober. This article focuses on how | | | | don't hang around the alcoholic, and don't let them |
| you can detach and remain healthy mentally. | | | | abuse you with their words. If you care about the |
| Don't Make Alcoholism Your Problem | | | | alcoholic in your life, this is what helps them more than |
| If you have never read any of the Al-anon material | | | | anything else. |
| then you probably don't know that you are making the | | | | Detach With Love |
| disease of alcoholism YOUR problem. One of the sad | | | | You are powerless to getting your loved one to stop |
| facts of living with an alcoholic is we become just as | | | | drinking. The first step in being able to detach is by |
| mentally and emotionally sick as the alcoholic. This | | | | realizing that the shenanigans of the alcoholic is not |
| happens because every step of life we take, and | | | | your problem. Don't try and fix their messes for them. |
| every breath of air we breathe has some involvement | | | | Not only does this enable them to continue drinking, but |
| with the alcoholic. Our emotions overtake our own | | | | also it justifies their drinking. Don't have any interaction |
| mental health as we try and cope with the | | | | with the alcoholic while they are drinking; that includes, |
| deterioration of the alcoholic in our life. What are we | | | | talking and arguing with them. Why fuss and fight with |
| doing wrong? We are concentrating too much on the | | | | someone who has lost the ability to make any sense? |
| disease, instead of concentrating on our mental and | | | | Don't become ensnared in the alcoholic trap with them. |
| emotional health. We may as well be tipping the bottle | | | | Stay out of the trap, so you can help them. Ninety-five |
| for them. Better yet, we may as well be drinking with | | | | percent of what an alcoholic says is manipulative and |
| them! | | | | hogwash anyway. Don't start believing in the lies of the |
| Don't Enable | | | | disease. Separate yourself from the antics of the |
| Most spouses of alcoholics don't realize they are | | | | alcoholic. |
| helping their spouse drink just by a few simple | | | | Pray For The Alcoholic |
| behaviors and actions. Several ways in which you | | | | I can't tell you how important the process of daily |
| may be enabling your spouse to drink is by buying | | | | prayer can be. Not only does it bring you closer to |
| them alcohol, drinking with them, calling the boss and or | | | | God but it will also get you into the habit of going to |
| family members for him because he is too hung over | | | | God with your life challenges. God does hear your |
| or too drunk to do it himself. Lying to friends, boss, | | | | cries of pain and He will give you the answers you |
| family and co-workers about him and his drinking | | | | need to get through your trials and tribulations, even if |
| problem. Taking them to the store, arguing with them, | | | | your spouse continues to drink. Be patient and remain |
| and behaving like a victim. You are not the victim of | | | | faithful in the Lord and He will deliver you from your |
| alcoholism until you make yourself BEcome the victim. | | | | suffering. |
| Get Off The Pity Pot | | | | Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by |
| Get off of the pity pot and begin living for yourself, | | | | prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your |
| instead of living for the alcoholic. "Oh poor me, | | | | requests to God. |
| everyday I am suffering and I can't take it anymore" | | | | |