Living With an Alcoholic and the Challenge of Not Having Alcohol Inside the Home

When you live with an alcoholic in your life, you have toThis is depressing because you want to feel safe and
change the way you live.secure in your home, but the problem is already inside.
You have to change the way you keep your houseYou have to change the way you live when you live
stocked with beverages. You have to realize thatwith an alcoholic.
having alcohol in the home is a thing of the past.FACT: There is no easy way to keep alcoholic
FACT: An alcoholic does not give a hoot where thebeverages in the house where an alcoholic lives.
drink comes from, as long as they can drink it.If you have alcohol in the house, be prepared to have it
This is hard to understand for many people. If you dodisappear quickly. This is a predicament for everybody
not have a drinking problem, but take pleasure in athat keeps alcohol in the house.
drink occasionally, you will have to make someJust because a well meaning acquaintance brought it
changes.over for when he or she visits will not mean a thing.
The poignant thing is that you may have to be the oneThe alcoholic that needs a drink does not care whose
to hide the alcohol.alcohol it is but only that it is there and they feel like it.
Can I suggest that if you really want to make aThis can cause more problems when they come for a
difference, quit drinking yourself?visit and the alcohol is gone. You have to explain and
If you drink, you have to use sound judgment. Youidentify the truth instead of covering it up.
have to realize that living with an alcoholic and drinkingHiding alcohol is not the answer, but unfortunately, it is
yourself can make for some intense moments. It maythe only way you can keep alcohol in the house if you
make you feel self-importantand able to say thingsdo. Sometimes you will feel like this is not worth it and
that you normally would not.get depressed. This is the time you need to talk to
This could create some arguments and even somesomeone. Living with an alcoholic that seeks and finds
abusive behavioral on both parts. If you do drink, itthe alcohol to drink has a problem and most
should be on moderation and make sure that you docounselors will tell you not to keep alcohol in the house
not need to discuss anything with your spouse orat all. This is not what you want to hear, but short of
partner when you are drinking.sleeping with the alcohol next to your bed, this may be
Keep alcohol out of sight if you live with an alcoholic inthe only way to stop the alcoholic from drinking what is
your life. This is vital, but it is also necessary. Manynot theirs.
alcoholics will hide their empties so that you do notYou may need to have an alcohol free home to deter
know that they are drinking, but now you will have todrinking at home. This is not hard to do if you do not
be the one hiding the alcohol if you want to keep it inwant a cocktail now and then. If you are just a casual
the house. This now becomes a really bad living statedrinker and only want a few cocktails, you will have to
of affairs. Unfortunately, if you want alcohol in thedecide what is more important. This is hard, but then
house for yourself or for when guests stop over, youagain, living with an alcoholic is problematical nearly all
will have to keep it out of sight.of the time.
Please don't think that a lock on the liquor cabinet willThere is no straightforward way to live with a person
deter the alcoholic in you life. If the person knows thatthat has a drinking difficulty. You have to make
there is alcohol in the house, even if you use a locksacrifices in most cases to make things work.
and key to keep them out, they will discover a way.