Dealing With an Alcoholic Parent

If you are reading this, then chances are you areaddiction cycle that your mom or dad is in.
somehow connected to alcoholism. Either you, yourHave a Support System - It is absolutely vital that you
family, or someone you care about drinks to much, andhave an adult that you can rely on and trust in your life.
can not seem to help themselves. For those of youBeing a kid is tough enough without an alcoholic parent.
that are dealing with this problem in a parent, you areWhen you add in the stress of that, you can easily
particularly torn. You do not want to be the person thatreach a critical overload of emotions. Your pastor, your
turns them in, and you do not want to live with theiruncle, your aunt, your teacher, your counselor, your
alcoholic ways any longer either. It is a double edgedcoach at school, or anyone else that is older that you
sword. Fortunately, there are some solutions to yourtrust should be made aware of your situation. You are
problem. Here are some helpful tips on how to dealnot turning your back on your parents in doing this. You
with an alcoholic parent:are actually doing something your parents would want
Recognize The Problem For What It Is - The hardestif they were clearly thinking.
part of being a child of an alcoholic is getting over theUltimately, someone with an alcohol problem has to
shame. You surely have dealt with this on some level,face the music. Make sure that you have this person
and it may even be a secret within your home. Thatavailable to you in an emergency, and that they are
said, you need to understand that alcoholism is awilling to support you if possible. If you have nobody,
disease. It is not much different than cancer, or anythen you should contact your domestic hot line at (800)
other disease. The biggest difference is that it is a799 - SAFE. This is a great resource to get you the
disease that affects the mind and the decisions that ahelp you need.
person makes. It does not mean that your mom orYour safety is the most important thing, and making
dad is bad, or that they are somehow rotten. It meanssure that you have a safe place to go in an
they are sick. It is not your fault, nor is it your burden toemergency is not a bad thing. It does not mean that
carry. This is the first step to dealing with a parent whoyou love your parents any less, or that you are turning
is an alcoholic. Realize that they have a problem, andyour back on them. This is a problem that only they
that you can not fix it. They must take that stepcan solve, and sometimes it takes help they are not at
themselves.first willing to accept. Always be willing to call 911 in an
Make Yourself Better First - Before you can doemergency situation, and never hesitate if you feel that
anything at all for your parent, you must realize thatyou are in danger.
you are at risk. Not only are you at risk to theirWith time, your parent may end up getting the help that
alcoholic behavior, but you are at risk of going downthey need. Always keep your own mind and
the same road. It is common knowledge thatconscious clear, as you are not at fault. Nothing that
alcoholism runs in the family sometimes. You mustyou do or do not do can make them better. Only they
make a commitment that you will not continue thecan do that. You can, however, make certain that they
chain. This is vital to your being able to get through thechain ends with you.