| How do you really help an alcoholic or
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| | herself. It's not something you can do
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| drug addict? Maybe you have a spouse,
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| | for them. Don't let guilt drag you down.
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| friend or child that is in the throws of
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| | You're no good to anyone if you're
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| an addiction. What do you do, how do you
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| | swimming in your own sea of misery and
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| really help? There aren't any hard and
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| | guilt. You need to stay strong and be a
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| fast rules, but here are 5 tips that may
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| | tower of strength.
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| help ...
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| | 4.) Forgive
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| 1.) Communicate
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| | Realize that being an alcoholic or drug
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| It's an old cliche, but there really is
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| | addict isn't who that person really is.
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| tremendous power in open and honest
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| | That doesn't excuse their behavior, but
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| communication. To really express how your
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| | realize that at their core they're a good
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| spouses, friends, child's addiction is
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| | person despite what they've done. So
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| effecting you and them, you begin to
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| | becoming hateful and resentful doesn't do
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| plant the seeds of how much damage
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| | anyone any good, least of all you. Anger,
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| they're actually doing. Change may not
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| | Hatred and Resentment only poison your
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| happen immediately, but you just don't
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| | own psyche and soul, no one else's, and
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| know when that seed will be ready to
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| | there's absolutely nothing positive
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| ripen. By the way - threatening,
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| | you'll be able to do if you're coming
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| aggressive or abusive behavior isn't the
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| | from such a negative space. Don't forget
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| answer either - but we'll talk about
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| | to forgive yourself as well because
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| tough love later.
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| | you're bound to feel some kind of
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| 2.) Let the Addict Own their Stuff
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| | responsibility - even if you shouldn't.
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| What do I mean by that? Don't play
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| | Forgiveness has the power to heal the
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| protector, cover up for, or bail out the
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| | most painful of wounds.
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| addict of the inevitable jams that person
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| | 5.) Don't be afraid to Practice Tough
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| finds him/herself in. An alcoholic or
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| | Love
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| drug addict has to learn to take
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| | This ties in with allowing the addict to
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| responsibility for what they're doing.
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| | be responsible for their actions.
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| What help is it to them if you're
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| | Enabling their behavior by always
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| constantly bailing them out? Only by
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| | covering up for them or bailing them out
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| being forced to take responsibility do
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| | does them absolutely no good. True love
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| they begin to feel the consequences of
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| | is allowing them to learn their lessons
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| their actions. Consequences create
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| | no matter how painful. Tough love isn't
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| change.
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| | ranting or raving - you make sure your
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| 3.) Don't Take Anything Personally
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| | actions speak louder than words. You
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| What's the first thing we tend to do -
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| | begin to create serious consequences of
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| blame ourselves. Their drinking or
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| | that persons continuous drinking or
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| drugging has nothing to do with you so
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| | drugging - e.g. they go to rehab or else
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| don't blame yourself. We're each
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| | you're kicking them out - will
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| accountable for our own stuff,
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| | communicate how serious the situation has
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| responsible for our own actions. So
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| | become and that the time for action has
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| despite what that person may say don't
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| | arrived. Performing an Intervention can
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| fall into the blame-shame game.
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| | be a very powerful tool to use.
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| Ultimately only the addict can help him
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